What do we do about shame and despair?

Although these words are used interchangeably, they are quite different. Guilt arises from actions and the impact those actions have on people. Shame is the sense that there is something wrong with me and that wrongness impacts how I stand vis a vis others. My observation is that guilt is more common among the older generations and that shame is the bigger issue for the young. Both shame and guilt can lead to despair, but I suspect that shame is a closer cousin to despair than guilt. Many suicides, it seems to me, are a matter of shame. Sadly, the church in its proclamation, especially since the Middle Ages, has focused on guilt. (Jesus paid the price for the bad stuff I have done.) What happens when folks aren't so preoccupied with the bad stuff they have done, but are much more aware of the shame they have for being who they are? What happens when the issue is not so much guilt, but despair? I personally think the church would do well to reflect not so much on how it addresses the naughty things people have done but the shame and despair that are so rampant among the young.